RECEPTION OF AN ACTIVE HEARING IN PRESCHKILS
Educator - psychologist
I dba about you, I accept you, I mind you. "
The causes of difficult children are often captured by the spheres of feeling. Todi practical actions - show, navchit, direct - you will not help you. Such vipadkahs have the nicest ... yogo hearsay. Shchepravda, іnakshe, nіzh mi sounds. Psychologists knew and even gave a lecture description of the method of “supplementary hearing”, which they call “active hearing”.
Does it mean - actively listen to the child?
In all vices, if the child is tortured, scrivjena, knows bad luck, if it is painful, disgraceful, scary, if she was rudely treated and unfair yogo experiences (chi stani), "chuєte" yogo.
For the most beautiful, say, well, to your enemy, see the child at once. Bazhano name "na im'ya" the whole experience. As soon as the child has an emotional problem, she needs to be actively listening.
To actively listen to a child means "turn it over" for those who are rosy, you won’t have a chance to hear it, at the same time they felt it.
Guided butt:
Mom should come in before the little girl's room and bach bezlad.
MOM: Nino, you still haven't taken to your room!
Daughter: Well, mom, let's get it!
MOMA You don't even want to get in at once ...
DAUGHTER (not encouraged to throw herself at her mother): Mommy, you are a miracle in me!
Інshiy vipadok.
Tato, in blue, went to the bus. The bus will be stopped, and it will not be possible to store it on the new one. On the way, the lad asked to buy a chocolate bar, ale tato was seen. Todi scrivdzheniy sin becoming sabotuvati tatovy spіh: to get up, wonder at all sides, stop for those who are "inadvertent" ref. Before the tat, having become vibir: it is not possible to start recording, and you might not want to pull the blue forcibly by the hand. I here won’t guess our joy “Denis, - turning wine to the blue, - you get confused through those who didn’t buy you a chocolate bar, confused and formed on me”.
As a result, there were those who didn’t pick up the tato: the boy peacefully put his hand into the tatowa, and the stench quickly rushed to the bus.
Do not expect, for sure, the conflict is seen so quickly. Inodі child, I see the readiness of the daddy of the mother of his hearing and intelligence, I want to keep talking about those who have become. The overweight man should be deprived of actively hearing from his dal.
Above all, the butt was bigger than the trivial one, in which my mother sounded "voiced" those who were feeling and poking, moving with the child, who was crying.
Mom is busy with dilova rose. At the cemetery room there is a five-star little girl and a decimal synonym. Raptom moon thick crying. Crying close to my mother’s doors, and the handle on the side of the corridor was started. Mom saw the doors, in front of her stood, buried at the doorstep, daughter, she was crying, and to the back - decaying synonyms.
Daughter: Oo-oo-oo-oo!
MOM: Mishko making you look ... (Pause.)
DAUGHTER (selling posters): Let me in!
MOM: I shook you, you fell, and thrashed ... (Pause.)
DAUGHTER (stopping the placards, more and more screeching in tone): Ні, I didn’t take me in.
MOM: You started to sound like a stribal, but I didn’t understand you, but you fell ... (Pause.)
Mishko, who stands behind the wine viglyad, nods his head with a firm head.
DAUGHTER (still calmly): So ... I want you to do it. (Climb up to mami on the colin.)
MOM (in a day): You want to be with me, but you still look at Mishka and don't want to be nice to him.
Daughter: Ні. There is my hearing board, but it’s not cool for me.
MISHA: Garazd, come on, I'll put your pay on ...
Be aware of the important special features and additional rules for growing and using the method of active listening.
In a persistent way, if you want to listen to the child, it is necessary to turn around until you are exposed. It is even more important that your eyes were on the same level. As the child is small, sit down on her hands, or on the knees; It is possible for three things to attract a child to yourself, to go or stick your style to its neighbor.
Unique spіlkuvatisya with a child, perebuyuchi in the іnshіy room, turning the faces to the plate or sinks with dishes; marvel at television, read the newspaper; sitting, leaning on the back of the chair or lying on the sofa. Your camp, according to the view before, and your posture - the first and the most powerful signals about those who are ready to hear and feel. Be even more respectful to these signals, as well as "read" a child, be it for a lifetime, to see no evidence of any kind of sound.
In a different way, if you look with a tortured child, or a tortured child, do not put it on power. Bazhano, your ideas sounded in the old form.
Rozmova, for the way of active listening, is not even known for our culture, and it is not easy to opanuvati. However, it’s a way to quickly win your sympathy, as only you will show the results, as will be yours. Oh take three. The stench can also be a sign that you should be able to hear the child correctly. Pererahuєmo їkh:
1. You know, or take a very weak and negative experience of the child. Signs of a miraculous regularity are given here: the joy of fighting is broken, the sorrow is changing in two.
2. Ditina, having crossed over, is already matured ready to hear, started to tell about herself more: the topic of notification (skargi) is changing, developing. In some cases, in one chaos, it is unsuccessful to develop a tangle of problems and add-ons.
3. Ditina herself seeks out about her own problem.
Success okrilyu Batkiv, the stench of repairing, the stink is put before the "technology" and the water will change for a new moment. The stench sees that it becomes more sensitive to the needs of the child, it is easier to accept the "negative" feeling. Fathers seem to know that in an hour they can fix the stench, they have more patience, less drag on the child, steal the bachiti, because what is it? Walk around, but the "technology" of active listening appears as a re-enactment of fathers. We think that it’s stagnant to children, but there’s a snake of us. In a tsomu - її miracle, power is accorded.
Literature
- B, “Spilkuvatisya with a child. Yak? "/ M. View Astrel, 2006." I hear you "/ Moscow: 1984. M.
View of Astrel, 2008.
- Repeated mother navchannya
- Emotions are important for words
- Dialogue is the basis for communication
- Vikoristovyte mov tila
- Be on the positive side
Usi children of the development: є movchuni-quiet, and є baby-bovtanki. Ale, yak, it’s not marvelous, daddy is quiet and often behave the same way: skip the words of children povz vukh. Especially cover up, that the posture will respectfully fill in the truth, important monologues, if the child has spoken forgiveness, that it has started, it has spoken in a voice, vividly, emotionally ...
So, at any given moment, we got used to it, you got nicholas, so, so, podії, scho threw a child against, be created unimportant. You may not have a chance to feel your child!
Why is it important to hear children?
Preschool children without the middle and not in the space from the point of splitting up to the right moment. As soon as there are pressing problems with the head of the room, you can discuss it, if you do it manually, for example, during the evening, with a tiny number you cannot go through. Most of the dad, zennatska drowned, just not in the snake of a lonely person. To ask the child to shut up, or to react to it as to the background noise, by inserting remarks on the screen "that you think!"
” Along with that, the specifics of the preschool age, through a year, if you will be able to hear the baby by hand, it’s no longer a good deal, but your taste is trying to get on with it.
” As a matter of fact, in an old age, such a lack of quality can be critical.
Are you actively listening - tse yak?
Let’s admit that you knew the time to talk to the child. Ale the problem of the quality of growth, as before, it becomes a guest. It’s even more important (just not badly) to go over the history of those, that the little boy’s machine got stuck in the little boy, and the little boy didn’t want the grace and flowed in. Do not magically demonstrate emotions, as you don’t see, reward ahati, hunt that grat with eyebrows - it’s not right to look at a trinity child. How to take the fate of the rose, do not visualize the pretense, or demonstrate respect for that povagu to see the child? The technique of active listening is also helpful.
Repeated mother navchannya
” Vibudovyte your remarks at the basis of the phrases of the child herself, "turn" that word. So you will demonstrate that you feel yogi, and at the same time change your mind, do the right thing to think about yogo. If the intelligence is not so, the child will be simpler than you to correct.
- Christmas Masha rocked the dicks in the sandwich and hit her shovel so hard that she got mad!
- Ti zdivuvsya, why was the scapula broken?
“I don’t want to wear a shirt to school!
- A shirt doesn’t look like it, it’s not handy in it, which one of the friends confused you, saying, “Why don’t you go there?”
Beastly respect, in the reply from the mother, you should have the same words as in the message of the child. The price is not a universal rule, as it is more helpful not to deprive a child with a child, but be it: in case of serious mischief with a cholovik, bosses, pidleglims, business partners ...
” Another method, like vicoristation among tsikh dialogues, is the recognition of a child by my mother.
Emotions are important for words
Find out how much you see the child and help you learn. It’s okay to state that those, you bachite: “Ty torture, you are happy, you are happy, you are screaming” ... If you didn’t sound the wrong way, it’s not scary, you’ll correct you.
Let me show you that you are not just respectful to the child, but you are fair and spirited. Ale the smut, you will help the child to fit in with the negative sentiments, having brought forth re-transformation, aggression, insanity in troubles.
” Nareshti, buvaє, what a child you can't, for not wanting to go into the details of what has become. So it’s not easy for the hour of childish weldings: the child is out of the picture, it’s no longer possible for Deer not to be friends because of Petya, and for everything. Do not use power over the history, endlessly supply the power supply "how has it become?" and so on. Give it to your specialty.
Show me more beautifully that you feel good to the little girl, signify that you demonstrate your position.
- I bachu, ti torment, for me even a Skoda.
- Ty of torment, I am mind, as it is important.
- You are angry, I think you have some serious reasons.
Dialogue is the basis for communication
Do not turn on the baby from the rose! Do not distribute evaluations, do not think of them as your own, indefinite respect may be inconsistent. Remember, your zavdannya is active, but hearing is all the same. Most often, mother is worried, feeling that the child is no longer comrade with Olena, but for Vasya, she will immediately provide (and also some relatives) with the best characteristics, so I’m glad to see such a turn of events, and find a hand. others for the applied image. Children and children feel like it's just a dumb mess here!
” Do not sleep on the baby, do not interrupt, do not crush. Let the youmu think and formulate your thoughts.
Vikoristovyte mov tila
It is important to show children, who are seen for growing. In order to induce an effective community to complete just the right position!
” Make a mistake on the same level with the child, so that the contact between HIV and AIDS was not facilitated at all. Marvel at a child - not a murderer, not at a door, not at milk, it’s boiling! Relax, try not to clasp your hands and feet, not verbally "curling" you at the splint.
Don't make tactile contact. A baby can be put on a knee, a baby can be tied by the shoulders or take it by the hand.
Be on the positive side
Do not let the child play with the situation, change the tension of the addictions. Analyze your promotions for less than one word.
” The word "fool" can be corrected unimpressively to "foolish", "foolish" - to "not nice," There are some minor amendments to help the little ones to help them calm down and reappraise those who have become, having looked around the situation with a glance!
Do not think so, if you think of repeating the rest of the child's phrases like the moon, then you will create a pedagogical wonder; more, the technique of active listening is practically uncomfortable to master the first time. Alle, as a result, you won’t bring you more cories, less your child. I know for sure who to talk to. And the axis you have є is even bounded by a number of trying to feel that mind of your child. Get lucky!
"Hearing one of the most common elements of respect, for which we have given one person to the one"
Madeleine Barkley Alain
Lyudina is proud of the majestic inflow of the information field.
People are important to see the whole great field, it is more important that they are needed for themselves, for quiet people, like order with her.
And it’s not easy for a child to be seen as a mother, a tat, a whip - as an important one, we will grow up to hear that a little one.
Zavdannya:
- іdpratsyuvannya navichok іnіshіnnya people, to ourselves, as well as vzaamovіdnosin mіzh people;
- ovolodinnya with tips of effective hearing.
Carrying out form: seminar-workshop.
The vibration of the given form will be explained to them, that they will allow the fathers, teachers not only to accept the information, but to think about the regularity of the development of the child, to the inner life of those who allow themselves to learn not only to solve the problematic situation for the fathers / teachers, but on the other hand, the opportunity to show activity is what you want to be able to - to show the deyaki priyomi and effective interaction in the father-child system. At the same hour, they allow those fathers / teachers, who are not ready to take the position of the listener until they become active.
Form robots that principle:
For the realization of the idea of stagnation such priyomy: gra, right, discussion, dialogue, model of situations, mini-lection, rosm, reflexion, group discussion.
The robot is organized in such forms as the individual robot of the whole group.
All the same allows the implementation of the principle of training:
- the principle of maximum activity, which is the maximum level of inclusion of the skin member of the group. The principle of activity is to spiral around the idea that people will take 10% of those who feel; 50% of that, bach; 70% of that, scho fishing; 90% of that, scho rob yourself. Correct that zavdannya designed in such a rank, so that the brothers will be allowed to take an active part in all the members of the group.
- The principle of the maximum reliability of information, so that they take care of themselves, that in addition to discarding knowledge є the activity of the participants is the subject of discussion є in the first place - but the real life.
- The principle of an active pre-admission position of the skin transmission, skin to the right and the knowledge is a guide for the analysis of and the experience of the participants.
Otzhe, the basis of the principles of training is the active pre-adolescent character of the behavior of the participants.
Ochikuvani results: vyroblyati vyroblyati daddy / teachers adequate ways to react for hours spilkuvannya with children.
I will be busy with a single structure:
- Vitannya.
- The rosie.
- The main zm_st busy.
- Reflexion of the past busyness.
- Farewell.
Possession:
- memos "Rules for active listening";
- magnetophone;
- presentation "Active listening";
- disks from recordings of instrumental music for relaxation;
- booklets “Rules for active listening”;
- style (for a number of participants);
- papier for writing;
- pens.
Organizational space: before the seminar starts, as long as the participants go, it’s quietly spokyna music, as it allows you to see all the problems and fixes, to sit in a pre-order in number.
Opening hour: 1-1.5 years old.
Go busy
I. Knowledge.
Leading. Good afternoon! I'm glad to see you. Smile! Yak vi vvazhaєte, yak more beautifully to turn one to one - on "ti" chi on "Vi"? On іm'ya chi on daddy? Name your name and be-like a prikmetnik on the first letter of the name, which characterizes you.
(The participants introduce themselves one to one).
II. The rosie.
Purpose: the establishment of a positive emotional attitude, knowledge of the sponge, the formation of a group.
Leading. Now let's start.
A) "Numbers".
B) "Change your seat, hto ...". Try to sit by the number, at the center there is one leader. Zayviy is a style to get away, and the one who stands at the center, like: “And at once peresyadut usi, hto…” and ask mind, how much more quiet, hto sit. For example: we drank this year's kava, went on the bus, and was too bloated at the black one's. All the participants, before they go to the sign, are guilty of getting up quickly and transferring to the other place, which was sound. You cannot go to the place, if you are interested in you, you cannot go to the place on the right and evil. Leading borrower, perche mіsce, scho zvіlnilosya. The one who is lost without a misce, becomes a leading one - and I ask such a mind too badly.
Negotiation.
Leading. What helped the group to fit in with the assignments? How did the viconati get the shit? ("Would it be that the viconati could be helped by the zavdannya shvidshe?") Too thin. - give the opportunity to find moments in behavior, which may mean the situation in a situation, if a group of viroblyaєs spilne solution, it seems to be home only. Call me when you come the need to understand one on one, to use one's own actions with the other's actions, to understand the logic, the position of the others; to appear, but it is not easy to fix the grip of situations that transfer the efficiency as the most effective way of behavior.
3. The main part.
Leading. This year's theme of our entertainment is “Active listening”. Let us be amazed: some of you hear a little of one thing. For everybody, you will have a chance to get a load of "Phone Zipsovaniye". I need some of the participants. What do you want?
Instructions for quiet, hto go: I will ask you one at a time, and I will propose to you that you will be sent to the auditorium. (The students walk around).
Instructions for solving the participants: fix the pardons given to the senses, which appear at the cutaneous transmission.
I ask you to leave the first (to enter the first participant). Hear me, be weasel. I will read the text to you at once, and you will be guilty to tell the one who will escape the offensive.
On the right, "Phone number" (Dodatok 1 )
The text of the program: “Near the birch tree in the children's kindergarten No. 15, which is located at the crossroads of the streets of Krupskoy and Shabalina, there has become an unwitting podia: from the shell of the old senior group of crocodiles. Vasil Sidorov, having kicked the crocodile, taking an easel and trying to paint from nature. Fedko Petrov found himself picking up the crocodile, reeling, shove it into Masha Seleznyova's jacket. Daddy Viri Korkinoy, who came for an hour behind his own little sight of the 2nd whore, having forgotten to take it to the house and descended on the domineering process, as a result of what may be the third squad appeared, but without a friend, without a friend, Without alimentіv. The screams were answered by the sportsmen of the DOP. Someone got up to phone 911. If a team arrived, the children sat at the table and drank aromatic tea. "
Enter another participant. The first one to see the text that Chuv. Then the third one can come in, see a friend of those who are scho chula. Let the quarters of hearing be heard by those who see the next participant.
Leading. Thank you! All of you are vikonali, all of you are seen. And now hear what it said to the first. (Read the text).
Negotiation.
The participants will be able to see the following power supply:
- Yake the enemy did the right qiu?
- Did you get the rumors respectfully?
- What moments were forgotten more stealthily?
- We made a lot of respect for those, besides, the history has changed, then the senses have been absorbed. Yak vi vvazhate what? (Great respect for details, lack of structure and information).
Visnovok: to the fact that our skin information is processed in a simple way, it’s self-explanatory, and it’s possible to add it to your skin, and you’ll see it in your mind. on uvaz, about what our spyvrozmovnik thinks, if you say that chi іnshu phrase.
To that, it is also important to follow the rules of active listening.
Listening more actively- the same kind of hearing, if the first plan is displayed, the information is displayed.
Leading distribution to the participants of the memorial "Priyomi active hearing" (Dodatok 2 )
| Active listening rules | Accept active listening |
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Leading. At the same time, I want to proponate victorious skills and actively listen to the practice.
On the right is "Wise Listener".
Purpose: development of active listening.
The presenter will read out the visibility of the whole group. The participants are looking for additional techniques of active listening.
Drilled:
a) "I went to the store, I went to the store, two of them punched sour cream and two punched hlib, and I overpaid 60 rubles!"
b) "Skіlka is possible, my child of a sudden new fate has taken a zmіnu at your school!"
c) "Mom, I can't do anything about it!"
The negotiation is carried out at the vilniy form. The most important participants can see how they see it.
- Why did you fall asleep on the thought, how did you want to tell the child?
- What?
- Why did you see it because you want to hear?
4. Reflexion.
Leading. During the current season, we knew how to hear, feel, learned about the methods of active listening and how they took it in practice.
- Chim corisne is very busy for you?
- Did you know any new things?
- Have you seen it?
Delivery of pidsumkiv.
Leading. The author of The Little Prince, Antoine de Saint-Exupery, says: “Naybilsha rozkish is a rozkish of human spilkuvannya. Without a clever hearing, it is a little bit overwhelming. I tried to make you "active listeners" this year, and even more help from the formulation of good friends with a child.
- Dyakuyu for spіlkuvannya, for spіvpratsyu. I am very good at praying with you, I am honored and you with me. Now let's say goodbye to you!
"Try, let us do it!"
Literature:
- 1. Yu.B. Gippenreiter “Spilkuvatisya z ditinoyu. Yak? - View Sphere, 2005.
- 2. G.B. Monina, O. K. Lyutova-Roberts "Communicative training" (teachers, psychologists, daddy). - SPb .: Vidavnitstvo "Mova", 2007. - 224 p: il.
Topic: Spilkuvannya with a child. TECHNIQUE OF THE ACTIVE HEARING.
Purpose: learn about Batkiv due to the technology of Active listening.
Zavdannya:
Get to know yourself closer to the fathers of scholars;
Z'yasuvati at the fathers, I know the stink about the technique of Active listening;
Conduct a spilny analysis of different situations, for those who are difficult to diagnose with a child;
Look for a way to see children in new situations;
Have fun with the active listening technique.
Form: seminar of training elements.
Matir and whether: m'yaka igrashka, papier format A4, A3, visits, cards with a description of useful situations, an electronic board.
Walking
Leading. I'm going! I am glad that you knew the hour to come to the end. Our first activity is taking place in the form of training. At the walk of the robot, we have to look at one by one, so we pass to all the participants: to sign and attach the visitors, we knew that they were going to beastry before you.
Infected by cola can be transmitted to the axis of taku igrashku, your zavdannya: introduce yourself, say, whoever your daddy, and in which class your child enters, and end this proposition: "I come here ...".
Fathers are seen, etc.
Leading. Years of the year speaks just about the problems that arise with us in the process of solving the problem with children. Try to find out the reasons, it is negotiable, how to solve the problem.
Ale in front of the team, as we start to become a robot, let's adjust it to the spilnest performance. Adjust the game for us.
At the warm-up session, I poke my beloved one into the groove: "To flinch with melodies, hto ...". Tsya gra is even more informative, you can learn a lot about these.
After the ceremony, it can be seen that the participants have grown up, that the group has gone and is ready for the next job.
Leading. In our pooled life, we are often aware of the different situations in conjunction with children: our children cannot be brought together; ditina rozpovidaє, wіn іf kimos іf lads boiled and beaten, they formed meagerly. We are kindly seeing the situation. Let’s try to guess, yak, I vibudovuєmo rose with a child.
Axis for typical situations:
Daddy lunayut leaves with a description of the situation, the stench is read through it.
Mom is sitting at the park on the bench, until she is a three-ric boy who says: "Win taking my car!"
Sin turn around from the school, angrily throws a briefcase at the pedlog, and says to the father: "I'm not going anymore!"
Don'ka go for a walk; mama nagaduє, you need to dress up warmly, ale don'ka vereduє: won’t think of pulling in a “ugly hat”.
Leading. Would you like to call your children at such vipadkah?
Fathers share their knowledge and impart good phrases to us:
Well, nothing, let me tell you ...
How can you go to school?
Stop running around, it's a decent hat!
etc.
At the turn of the speeches of the dad, the leading one will write down in words, like the phrases of the dad vikoristoyut, how to transfer his children to the ringleader: "nastanovi", "obitsyanki", "zagrozi", "lectures", "food", "notes.
With his joy and critical respect for the daddy, they have seen children, well, the experience is not important, it doesn’t take up to respect. For all the justice of all the stenchs of the stench, there is one overwhelming shortcoming: to lose the child to one of the experiences.
Leading. Yak you vvazhaєte, what are children checking from us in the middle of khvilini?
The daddy will hang their thoughts. At this stage, it is important to go to the minds of the fathers of the one who the child checks on the minds, and not the fathers' lectures and nomination, but the hour and threats.
Leading. The causes of difficult children are often captured by the spheres of their senses. Tom, it's just okay − show, navchit, direct− You won't help you. Such vipadkahs have the nicest ... yogo hearsay. Shchepravda, іnakshe, nіzh mi sounds. Psychologists knew and even gave a lecture description of the method of "supplementary hearing""to active rumors".
Does it mean "listen actively"?
How do you know about the technology?
Leading zapituє daddy, know the stink about the whole technology. Daddy for bazhannyam talk about those who stink of intelligence due to the technology of active listening, and the actions of those who know how to talk about the knowledge of the technology.
Leading. We absolutely rightly wiked the essence of the technology. Let me tell you again about her: to actively listen to a child - means "turn it over" for those who are happy with you, having given you a feeling.
Turning to our butts and phrases, in which the daddy calls it a little child:
BLUE: Win taking my car!
MOM Tie even torment and discouragement on a new one.
BLUE: I don’t go there anymore!
TATO: You don't want to go to school anymore.
Daughter: I will not wear a qiu virodka hat!
Mom: It’s not like that.
Leading. Suggest a way of active listening to show how the daddy has an eye to the inner situation of a child, who is ready to feel about her more, to accept it. So literally, the daddy's spirits are especially hostile to the darling child (I respect you, not less, but an hour more and more pouring into the daddy himself, about the bottom of the trochi). Bagato Batkiv, who first tried to quietly “sound” the child, talk about the unsupported, miracle results for an hour. I will bring two real issues.
Mom should come in before the little girl's room and bach bezlad.
MOM: Nino, you still haven't taken to your room!
Daughter: Well, mom, let's get it!
MOMA You don't even want to get in at once ...
DAUGHTER (not encouraged to throw herself at her mother): Mommy, you are a miracle in me!
The first vip
The blue stench went to the bus. The bus will be stopped, and it will not be possible to store it on the new one. On the way, the lad asked to buy a chocolate bar, ale tato was seen. Todi scrivdzheniy sin becoming sabotuvati tatovy spіh: to get up, wonder at all sides, stop for those who are "inadvertent" ref. Before the tat, having become vibir: it is not possible to start recording, and you might not want to pull the blue forcibly by the hand. And here he guessed our joy: "Denis, - turning wine to the dark, - you become embarrassed through those who did not buy you a chocolate bar, embarrassed and formed on me." As a result, there were those who didn’t pick up the tato: the boy peacefully put his hand into the tatowa, and the stench quickly rushed to the bus.
Leading. Do not expect, for sure, the conflict is seen so quickly. Inodі child, I see the readiness of the daddy of the mother of his hearing and intelligence, I want to keep talking about those who have become. The overweight man should be deprived of actively hearing from his dal.
To marvel at one scene of more trivial growth, in which the mother of the child "sounded" the ones that she thought and beat, rocked with the child, who was crying.
The scene will be played out at once from a psychologist and a very classy cinematographer.
Mom is busy with dilova rose. At the cemetery room there is a five-star little girl and a decimal synonym. Raptom moon thick crying. Crying close to my mother’s doors, and the handle on the side of the corridor was started. Mom saw the doors, in front of her stood, buried at the doorstep, daughter, she was crying, and to the back - decaying synonyms.
DAUGHTER: Ooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
MOM: Mishko to you having formed... (Pause.)
DAUGHTER (selling posters): Let me in!
MOM: I shook you, you fell, and thrashed ... (Pause.);
DAUGHTER (stopping the placards, more and more screeching in tone): Ні, I didn’t take me in.
MOM: You've gotten a stribal, but you didn't get it, you fell ... (Pause.)
Mishko, who stands behind the wine viglyad, nods his head with a firm head.
DAUGHTER (still calmly): So ... I want you to do it. (Climb up to mami on the colin.)
MOM (in a day): You want to be with me, but you still look at Mishka and don't want to be nice to him.
Daughter: Ні. There is my hearing board, but it’s not cool for me.
MISHA: Garazd, come on, I'll put your pay on ...
Leading. The whole dialogue gives you the opportunity to be respected for the actions of important specialties and additional rules of development and for the method of active listening. Try to prescribe the algorithm for the technology.
Vivishutsya clean sheet.
Leading. Obviously, you have more trap, and we have shown the victoriously by the way of the technical. Do you have a chat?
Daddy will listen to their thoughts.
Leading. It is necessary to take a collection of the correct position of the child. Guess the scene right away. Yake took the camp to the mother, if she roamed it with her daughter?
The students are guilty of saying that the eyes of the child and mother will be on the same level.
Leading. We have mentioned it absolutely correctly. This is the first and most important croc in the victorian technique of technology: take the correct position on the date of the child. Why is it so important? Psychological advances have shown that people are not sensitive to the very non-verbal (wordless) information, so our posture is for children the strongest signal for those who are ready to hear and feel.
The first record appears on the arkushi:
To find the correct camp one hundred percent of the child (eyes of an over-grown child who are guilty of but on one ryvnі).
Leading. Now guess, at the yak form, did the mother grow?
The students may come to those who heard the mother's sound in the old form.
Leading. Correctly, you said, as to the reason for the image of the spirit (conceive of the child) and sound in the original form. Before the hour grow up, it’s even more important and corny to repeat, well, as you have seen, you have become with the child, and then you will become more appreciative.
Yaksho, you must drive with a tortured child or a tortured child, do not turn on the power supply. Bazhano, your ideas sounded in the old form. For example:
BLU (with a scowl): I will not go with Petya anymore!
BATKO: Ti na nyogo formed.
Possibly wrong remarks:
And what was the trap?
Ti scho, on nyogo formed?
On the arch there is another record, another point to the algorithm:
Repetition of the sensed view of the child.
Leading. Wee, mabut, they made a lot of respect, but at our scenes, for a skin replica, my mother moved, rocked small pauses. The pauses helped the child to return to her experience and the moment she saw her mother.
On the arch there is a third entry, the third point to the algorithm:
Robit pause with phrases.
Leading. The first moment is the most important thing for a child.
On the arkushi there are quarters of the record, the quarters of the paragraph to the algorithm:
Poznachennya pochutta ditini.
Leading. If you talk about a short version of the whole technology, then there can be a mother of this kind: almost - in the old form.
On the arc, there is a stop, a record, a point to the algorithm:
Feel like it is in the old form.
Next, the leader will read all the points to the algorithm again. On a number of stages, the participants can put one to one feed according to the algorithm. More beautifully, as daddy will see not from the leader, but one from one.
Leading. And now let's try it out at the victorian speaker technology. Kozhen from you (if you are a lot of participants, you can be divided into groups) we take off the card, the situation is described in such a way. Your zavdannya - intelligence, as well as seeing the child in the situation. Five hilin vikonannya. (Div. Dodatok 1.)
Dani and іnshі cards can be placed on the screen, so that the situation was bugged by yak daddy, who worked over it, and the other participants of the training employment.
Robot Batkiv.
Leading. Look, you got it. I ask for the bazhans to read the card and say, like, on your thought, after seeing the child.
Leading. thank you for qiu robot. And now try, vikoristovuchi AC technology, see the problem.
Відповіді батьків.
As soon as the daddy loses, the cards will be recognized from the positive messages of the situation. (Div. Dodatok 2.)
Leading. Infected, be we caress, on a bet, to discuss the situation, you will be seen in the process of spilkuvannya with children. We can write it down on the sheets of the situation and let me know. Pratsuєmo 5 chilin.
Robot Batkiv.
Leading. Deal with a pair of skin types according to the same card. Mastering couples: get to know the described situation and try to show how to show the AS technology.
Robot Batkiv.
Leading. Vyshoyno magalized vicoristovuvati AS technology. Changed, it's not so easy. They beat me up, so you want to supply the power supply and comment on the situation. Well, it's absolutely normal. Let's try to adapt it to such a power supply: how can we give us an AC technology for splitting with a child?
View of the batkiv can be approximately as follows: given the technique of additional assistance to vibudovuvati stosunki for children, more beautiful than the smallest children; z її vikorystannyam weakened spіlkuvannі.
Leading. If you are right, you can see it correctly, but the speaker technology can do it. Let me read the results of our discussion again.
Znika, or take a very weak and negative experience of the child. Signs of a miraculous regularity are given here: the joy of fighting is broken, the sorrow is changing in two.
Ditina, having passed over, is already grown up ready to hear, started to tell about himself more: the topic of notification changes, grows. In some cases, in one chaos, it is unsuccessful to develop a tangle of problems and add-ons.
Ditina herself learn to see her problems.
Ditina started actively listening to her fathers.
Fathers become more sensitive to the needs of the little ones, it is easier to accept the “negative” ones, so that they change and the fathers themselves.
Prevention of such destructive feelings, such as anxiety, aggressiveness.
Leading. Mozhlvo, bogatyom from you, hello, the technology is proponated є piece, unnatural for our middle class. Well, until the end of the day, the fathers are very piecemeal, "priyomiv" and "technics", then a little more help from one occasion, like directing Yulia Borisivna Gippenreiter at her book "Spilkuvatisya with a child. Yak? " Good see, ballerinas-pohatkivtsi years to spend at the right, far unnatural from the point of view of our beloved manifestations. For example, the stink of rocking positions, at which feet are placed under the small kutas, the sprinkling at 180 degrees. For such a “wyverted” position, nig ballerinas are guilty of trimming, staying, quilting behind the crumples of their hands ... And everything is necessary in order to dance the stench easily and obviously, do not think about technology. So it’s itself і with napkins spіlkuvannya. Smell of a little bit of importance and an hour not being invited, but if you use them, "technology" is known and passed over to the masterpiece.
We will not assess the technology at once. I ask everyone for two power supplies:
Are you ready to try out vicory by the way?
Do you want to know that you need to make additional visits?
Leading. I would like to give you a gift as a gift with a short description of the main points of the technique of active listening. Also there you will know the authors and names of books, as well as a great number of applied descriptions of the method.
Dyakuyu for the robot. Good bye.
Vikoristovuvan literature.
Interactive forms of interaction between the family and schools. Author-organizer O.S. Grishanova. school that daddy. Vidannya "Vchitel", 2008. Vidannya 2009
How to speak, how did the children hear, how did they hear, how did the children talk. A. Faber. Moscow. EKSMO. 2009
“Spilkuvatisya with a child. Yak? Yu.B. Gippenreiter.
Abetka vikhovannya: please daddy. G. Pereginiv. Vikhovannya shkolyariv. 2001 p. No. 7.
Bazarova R.A. Vzamodiya of the school, family among the vikhovanna of schoolchildren: method, recommendations, practical materials for the advice of the educational school, family, community. Penza. Vidavnitstvo IPKIPRO, 1994.
Dodatok 1.
Dodatok 2.
Unique spіlkuvatisya with a child, perebuyuchi in the іnshіy room, turning the faces to the plate or sinks with dishes; marvel at television, read the newspaper; sitting, leaning on the back of the chair or lying on the sofa. Your camp, according to the view before, and your posture - the first and the most powerful signals about those who are ready to hear and feel.
You shouldn't be able to power it up with a tortured child or a tortured child. Bazhano, your ideas sounded in the old form. For example: Sin (with a scowl): I will not go with Petya anymore! Batko: Ti formed into a new one. Possibly wrong remarks: What about trapilia? -Tee scho, on nyogo formed? The phrase, framed as a nourishment, does not include a speech.
In your opinion, repeat it in a corny, as if you were mindlessly eating with the child, and then, perhaps, it seemed. Sin (with a scowl): I will not go with Petya anymore! Batko: You don't want to be friends with him anymore. (Repetition of the sentient) Sin: So, I don’t want to ... Batko (with a pause): Ti formed into a new one ... (Potentially determined).
Three results of active listening. 1.Znikaє or take a very weak negatively experienced child. 2. Dytina, having passed over, is well-grown and ready to hear, started talking about herself more and more. 3. Dytina herself seeks out about her own problem.
Home staff. 1. Before you is a table, in which you need to memorize the column "see the child". At the left column, you will know to describe the situation that the words of the child, the right-handed person write, like, on your thought, if you think it’s wrong. For now, don't think about your opinion. Situations and words of a child Feel like a child Your opinion 1. (Attention): "Years, since I went to school, the boy-bully vibrated my portfolio and everything hung around." 2. (Little children were stabbing, crying): "Doctor of trash!". 3. (Senior sin - mama): "Tie zavzhdi її zaishchaєsh, kazhesh" little, little ", but me nikoli is not shkoduєsh." 4. "Today at the lesson of mathematics, I did not mind at all, and I said about the reader, but all the lads were laughing." 5. (Ditina misses a cup, she breaks): “Oh! My cha-and-shechka! " 6. (Vlіta at the door): "Mom, you know, I’m the first to write this year and give me a check!" 7. "Well, you need me, I zabula turn on the TV set, and there will be a continuation of the film!" Cover up, image Ty was confused a little more, and a little more tightly.
Zavdannya friend. Write down at the third column your opinion on the words of the child. Think in a tsy phrase if you like, yak (to your thought) vin vidchuvah. Zavdannya third. Recognize those same problems with your creepy child: remember the moments of the children’s experience, if you’re screeched, tired, afraid, you don’t want to, tired, rosary, happy, unbearable, don’t be buried ... Do not forget about the informal (not energizing) form of your remark and about the pause of your words.
